Years ago, one of my former bosses gave me (and everyone else in the company) this book, “Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Emerson Eggerichs, on Valentine’s Day. It took me a few years before I opened it to read it. In my post-divorce time, before I remarried, I read the majority of this book and realized that there were so many things I had done wrong in my first marriage (as well as what my ex-wife could have done better, but this is about my issues, not hers). It was nice to have my eyes opened up! I also realized why some of the fights and arguments happened and what I could have done to have kept the peace a little better. I thank God for this book and what my life has transformed into because of it. My wife and I enjoy an awesome friendship and relationship.
I did browse through a lot of the comments on this book on Amazon.com. There were some people who felt that this book was sexist against the women, blaming them for most of the marital problems. I strongly disagree with this standpoint. When I read this, I read a lot about the author’s screw ups in his own experiences. He uses a lot of scripture to back up his writing, too. I don’t put my faith into any written book, except for the Bible itself. I think that this book has a lot of good points to it. So much so that I gave a copy to all of my groomsmen when I remarried. It’s not just for men, either. There is a section of chapters for women as well. I believe that, with any book, a person should read it objectively and with an open mind.
